Eternal Marriage

After a rough start to our day, I decided that I need to read a talk on marriage.  What I have been doing hasn't been effective, it is time to get on the right track.  It is time to let go of hurt feelings, of being defensive, of holding on to anger all day long.  It gets me no where and only bring unhappiness to myself and to all those around me.  I read a talk given by Elder Scott entitled The Blessings of Eternal Marriage.  In it he shared us life and love with his late wife and told about their struggles and triumphes and how they held their  love together.  It was uplifting to me.  In the beginning as he was talking about the things we need to do as righteous partners to make our marriage strong, I kept thinking Kevin needs to read this talk, Kevin could do that a lot better, those are things Kevin needs to work on.  Then it came to me I need to stop fixing Kevin and start fixing myself.  If I try harder, so more love, be more caring and selfless, he will follow my lead.  Its me not him that I need to worry about!  So I made some goals as Elder Scott was talking, I will make this my goal to try harder, love deeper, be more forgiving, more caring, and less selfish. 

- Be supportive of Kevins goals
-Tell him often how much I Love him
- Don't just tell him but show him, give him love they way he receives it not the way I do
-Express gratitude for the things he does do
-Leave him notes expressing to him how much I love and appreicate everything he does for me once a week. 
- Be kind in word and deed.  Do nice things for him, don't be so quick to anger
- when I need a break or feel those angery feelings approaching leave take a breather
- Communicate clearly my thoughts, needs , and emotions I can't get upset with him for not reading my mind.


Kevin and I have a great seven years together.  We have had our ups and downs, and trials along the way and will continue to.  But, I love him and I am glad I choose him.  I need to try harder, work on being more loving, devoted, supportive wife.   So that this will be our end result!